People wonder what I mean about, I love it? I my self have always been seen as a outside to the social normal idea as being a Gothic mum so accepting and understand people different it has always been something I have done.
When I first got to told by friends, preschool and community health that my son Michael has "anxiety issue" "he not fit in" "he having a hard time". Of course me and Andrew feel like we had failed Michael our beautiful little boys. Next step was how can we help him? For
a long time it feel like everyone was talking super fast to us about
all the benefits of autism and what help you can get from a Autism Diagnosis. But
you have to wait 12months for ASPECT Australia to make a appointment.
Then you need to see a $400 pediatrician dr. to get a reports to add
with the diagnosis before you can see any help or funding for your son. So it became the biggest and longest wait game of my life. I started to feel like I had age super fast, the waiting for help felt like a life time and it got to a point that I decide. I cant wait for the help anymore I need to help my self and make the change in my life on my own. First thing I did was a accept that their was nothing wrong with Michael. Michael was not the issue it was my friends and preschools that question my parenting and made me feel like I was a bad mother. Im not a bad mother I know my son better then anyone in the hole world.
My
love is still the same before the world decide to tell me their was
something wrong with him. It was not until people made me question my
self that thing became stressful. Once I accepted that I am a great mother and Michael was prefect the way he is just need support and understanding. The healing could begin and I didn't feel like i had fail him any more I feel like I could do anything. Because the one thing i had know Est when people would tell me about Autism and my son a lot of them was saying "he can not"? "he can not make friends" "he does not have social skills" "he may never talk" The
list goes on and your friends and family around you slow change their
opinion about you and the way they talk to you. Some people ever will
have nothing to do with you like "having a Autism label is to hard to deal with".
You kind wonder how
these people can think any differently, Nothing has change your kids
still the same before you had a name for some of the thing he does. So me and Michael start to do something that shock all those people.
I start to learn and teach my self how to better understand Autism in my son I learn he body language speaks a 1000 words. I learn everything he did was a sign of Anxiety and issue he was having.
Once I learn that it was really easy to help my son, I quickly learn he love routine and struck so. I make the house routine.
I learn that I talk to much and ask to mane big question. So I start to cut down my words.
I learn that he has very big sensory need and need big movement like rocking, jumping, running to make him feel safe. And give Michael space is more important then anything else.
When Michael need alone time to give it to him because everything in the day has just over whelmed him.
One thing I love about Michael I have learn is when he line his car up, he will line his car in between a room like the kitchen to the lounge room. That his was of tell me I'm not aloud in his space, until he more a car and let me in. Just from my own accept ant I we shock everyone Michael
start talking in 2months time, he start making friendship and playing
with the other kids, he start to make eye contact when he want to talk
to you, He now say hello to new people and tell you when he need a sensory break "mum I need to jump for 1 minute to make me feel better".
My son and I have come a long way our relationship is stronger and very loving Michael is now 5years had his first birthday party with his friends over 15 kids came and their was no melt down, Michael just had fun.
We
are not 100% ready for primary school next but we will take it one day
at a time and this year we accept that Michael younger brother Luke has
Autism as well, very different so I plan to working toward building a strong loving relationship with Luke the same way i did with Michael with a lot of patience and loving support.
All the thing I was told my kids "can not do", I'm going to make sure they can do them and more. I not going to hold my kids back from do anything in life. Just because they have a label of Autism over their heads. I love Michael and Luke
they are both the most beautiful soul you with every meet and I don't
care that they don't fit in normal expectation like other kids.
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