my mum discredit your parenting skills

So what do you do when you have family that don't accept the autism. Well i have one of those family and with the truth that both my kids are autistic the younger brother show sign now....

i alway have found power in telling people that my son has autism i never seen using the word as a bad thing at all. But my mum on the other hand she will bite people head off over it ever know im the old tell people. She also tell me a few time to "stop tell people". it like WHAT why do i need to hind it their nothing to hide it not going to change if i start not tell people? and it just going to make me start being ashamed about something i am not shamed about just to keep my mother happy.... hmm........... i dont think so yes it hurt all the time when i try and talk to my mum about my kids and first thing she say to me is discourage any mention of autism, discredit your parenting skills...

And my mum is my rock i want to fall back on her and feel like i can tell her anything, well i use to beable until i got the diagnose. Well that what everything change for my family..


http://www.snagglebox.com/article/autism-family-acceptance 

Why do the people closest to us find it so hard to talk about?

Let’s run through the list of possible reasons. Since this is your family, we’ll give them the benefit of the doubt and rule out the most obvious ones:

• They don’t know
  
• They don’t care
  

So here’s what we’re left with:

• They’re overwhelmed - autism is just too huge that they don’t know where to start
  
• They’re protective - they don’t want this to be happening to you
  
• They’re unaware - they don’t know that you need support
  
• They’re skeptics - they think autism is just a fad
  
• They’re in denial - they don’t want to believe your kids are autistic
  
• They’re unattached - they haven’t bonded with your kids
  
• They’re worried - what if their kids are autistic too?
  
• They’re offended - you never call and your kids are unsociable
  
• They’re scared - your kids do weird stuff
  
• They can’t relate - nothing like this has ever happened to your family before
  
• They’re ignorant - they think autism is embarrassing or shameful
  
• They’re careful - they don’t know the right way to bring it up so avoid it altogether
  
  
  
  
  A lot of the thing on this list from snagglebox blog is my mum and my truth is, i have try to talk to my mum without biting her head off, I listen to her everyday try to tell me I'm wrong, and i have listen to her all the time. 
  
  
  It be nice for her to listen to me.... 
  
  
  Please that all i am asking? dont think anything different about me. Because i want to get the help that is need for my son. But everytime we see Speech appointment etc...... she has to question it everytime like i doing something really bad for my son. 
  
  
  But i see how it help him.......
  
  
  
  
  But hey she my mum i not going to cut her out of my kids life i just learn to stop listening now and stop talking to her about it because i accept that she will never understand. 
  
  
  When it come down to it, I'm still happy with my life and my kids and i will still tell people my kids are autism ever if my family will never want to understand i happy to understand it for my kids.